Tommy Waite

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Undiagnosed Therapist

(Prelude: This is a text I sent to someone who is really similar to me. We just had a long talk in person about how we overanalyze things and how ignorance is bliss for the most part, but we can't stand looking unaware and stupid. It's like we're playing life on the most difficult setting mentally by choice. Obviously we don't live in less privileged countries and other qualifiers, but I think you know what I mean. If we took everything at face value and didn't dig deeper on things, that's like playing life on easy. But the reward of analyzing something the right way and perfecting everything and being right is much greater than a feeling of taking something at face value and being right. The prelude is now longer than the actual post, so without further ado; this is a realization that I had:)

Something I just thought of is maybe the reason we overanalyze things is because we need all the information we can so that we can make an informed decision about how best to control our situation so that we don't look stupid and aren't rejected. So rejection is the root of all that (over analyzation, control, looking stupid) I think for me. Also we can throw jealousy in there as well (because I'm afraid they're rejecting me for someone else) and probably more if I think about it longer haha.

 

(btw if you were wondering, I'm the undiagnosed therapist. meaning I'm not actually a therapist, so people would not diagnose me as a therapist. I hear you, it's a stretch, but I really like that title. a more fitting title for this blog would be "Self Diagnosed Therapist", but it doesn't have the same ring to it. "Undiagnosed Therapist" sounds like there's a short story to be had there)